My small child self is happy Happy inside She loves who she loves Living or dead In contact or fled Distant or close She loves who she loves And I hold her close
My adult self is happy
Happy inside
I love who I love
And the world is so wide
Living or dead
In contact or fled
Loving forever
No matter what happens
I love who I love
My heart holds them close
My small child grieved losses I hold her close She loves them all I guard her from most She stays friends forever No matter the grief She is happy in loving Her loves shine as stars The ones who are hurtful Are loved from afar She’s held and she’s loved And her love sings unmarred
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For the Ragtag Daily Prompt: dogwood and for Mother’s Day. Mine died 25 years ago.
It is time to visit. It has been long enough and it is time.
He is in a dungeon. I have to go down flight after flight of stairs. It gets colder and damper and there is mold growing on the walls and puddles. Light comes with me.
I can hear him one flight above finding him. He’s having a tantrum and hitting something.
I find the door in the dungeon. It is thick and moldy damp wood with bars in the window and a huge lock. It is also open. My friend is screaming at the ceiling and hitting the ceiling and walls with a yard long heavy pipe. It clangs and I feel a tremor when he hits metal. There is no window, we are too far underground.
I lean on the doorway. “If you go deeper in to the earth, it will be warm and dry.”
He turns with the pipe held like a bat. He is huge and muscular and dressed in rags and very threatening. The room is mostly dark. He sheds a faint light. He glares at me and then lowers the pipe. He shrinks to his child self, like me. About age three.
“You are awfully cute at three.” I say.
He drops the pipe and lets me come hug him. The cell smells truly awful. There is a drain in the floor that appears to be working, sort of. There is a visible liquid level below the drain.
He is still while I hug him and then relaxes. “Ok,” he says. Silence for a minute. “I didn’t really think you’d come back.”
“Friends forever, right? That’s what you said.”
“Yeah, but,” he hesitates. “You were mad.”
My turn to shrug. “Yes. I got over it.”
“Took you long enough.”
My eyebrows go up. “You could have made the first move.” Now he shrugs.
“How about a picnic?” I say. “This is icky. Let’s get out of here.”
He looks at the ceiling. The stone is scratched and chipped. “Yeah. No progress here. Might as well.”
We leave the cell and go up. “Damn stairs.” I say.
“Your lungs are good.” he says.
“Most people’s lungs are pretty good at three.” I say.
“You are pretty cute at three too.”
“Thanks.” I get tired of the stairs and transport us to a meadow in my garden. It is summer and full of wildflowers. It is on a sloped hill with an enormous willow tree. “This is from when I was 7, really.” I say.
“Nice.” he says.
I have a picnic basket and get food out. We don’t really need to eat but it’s fun anyhow. We can taste food, a bit. His keeps turning black on his plate.
“Cut that out.”
A shrug again. “I like bugs now.”
“Did you at three?”
“Naw, but I ate them if I was hungry. Ants are not good. Grasshoppers are better.”
“Are you making any progress at all?”
He leans back on the hill, about as relaxed as he gets. Still hyper alert to everything around us. “No, and I don’t think I will. He’s 69 now. Getting older.”
“Well, he’s expecting to die of a stroke at 80.”
“Yeah, it’s pretty much too late. There is too much to process. And wine and pot do not help.”
“Using more?”
“Yeah.”
“Let’s talk about something more fun. Politics or taxes or something.”
He laughs.
We talk about cabbages and kings. Why the sea is boiling hot and whether pigs have wings. The sun moves like the real sun.
He is starting to fidget.
“Time?” I say.
“Yeah. You know, it’s not fair that they need us even if they won’t listen.”
“Seems like it.”
He glances at me and away. “Yours listens.”
“You’ve seen the results of that.”
He looks down. “Is she happy?”
“Sometimes. Sometimes sad, sometimes lonely, sometimes impatient. You know, all of it.”
He nods. We start packing up and we trek back to the dungeon and the endless stairs. We have gone down two flights when the landscape shifts. A forest, dark and huge trees and overcast. Damp and cool. He is morphing. “Oh!” he says, “Asleep again! And it’s 4 pm. Must be tv. And wine.” There is a small clearing in sight with a shack. It looks run down, no vehicles. My friend has morphed and split. He is a huge bear with red eyes. And an older man who smells of alcohol and reaches into his shirt for a handgun.
“Really?” I say to the man with the gun.
“They are his memories,” growls the bear. “I have to go.”
“Well, the bear isn’t. Goodbye and good luck.” I say, patting a furry leg. “I will come back.” But he is not paying attention any more, he is focused on the shack.
I go home and he goes to try again. Wake up, my friend, wake up.
This weekend I traveled east and a friend that I’ve known since I was in high school and she was taking a year off from college, met in Glenwood Springs. We soaked in the amazing hot springs there and then stayed in Carbondale. We managed two more hot springs the next day. Saturday evening we went to Steve’s Guitars and heard Quinlan Valdez. He is touring from Wyoming and we intersected with his tour and enjoyed it very much.
Oh, kindness. I think one huge kindness is not to listen to rumors and not to assume that they are correct. Whew. Though if you are ever the victim of a rumor, it will tell you who your real friends are. They will stay present, stay in touch, stay with you. Some will ask about it, others won’t, but they will stay. And you may be amazed by how many people disappear into the woodwork. They are staying “neutral”, they’ll say, but they don’t call, answer calls, or include you any more. Then they may show back up in the future. You will not trust them again. Ok, if they were going through some trauma of their own, but otherwise, no.
Sol Duc is keeping an eye on the neighborhood. She never tells me rumors, ever.
Here are three versions of Nobody Knows You When You’re Down and Out. I like the Bessie Smith one best. The John Lennon tune is different.
I was driven yesterday. I have an ill friend. She is currently in a “rehab”, aka “nursing home”, in Sequim. I drive 40 minutes to be with her at an hour appointment. Afterwards we check in at the nursing home and then I drive her back to her house, 40 minutes again. That is where Lily is. Lily is her cat. My friend was in the hospital for six days and now the “rehab” for two weeks. My friend wants to go home. Lily is miserable. She misses her person and hisses and swipes at me. I was driven to take my friend to see her cat.
Lily let me pet her yesterday because I brought her person home. However, the whole thing was a near disaster. My friend has been trying to get stronger, but she is not stronger. She is weaker. She has three steps into her house. We were there for about three hours. She sat to wash the cat’s bowl in the kitchen sink and Lily was very very happy to be near her. My friend was then tired enough that we had real difficulty getting her out of the house and back in the car. I used a bath stool to let her stop and sit about every four feet. She was using a walker, but could barely walk. She sat in the doorway of the house and talked about crawling. However, those muscles in your upper legs? Those are some of the biggest muscles in the body, and if you can barely walk, scooting or crawling is not feasible either.
We made it to the car without having to call an ambulance. I’m pretty strong for my age and size, but I’m not strong enough to carry her alone.
Poor Lily. I don’t think I dare try to get her in a cat carrier and she’d probably cry all the way driving and anyhow, the nursing home would need a shot record.
“Make new friends but keep the old, one is silver but the other gold.” My parents taught me that round. We sang lots of rounds growing up.
What does the picture have to do with knitting? I knit the hat! I got to hike with old friends from the 1980s last week. They are old friends, not old! Well, we might be getting a little grey.
Cupid shoots seven arrows from her quiver. Eons of experience, she hits where she aims. Six hit in my heart but the seventh in my liver. Now I can’t eat gluten and wine gives me pains. I wonder if hearts are like cats’ lives? I think it’s seven but it might be nine. The thought of more arrows gives me hives. I’ve had enough of love to last through time. I hope it’s seven and the arrows are done And Cupid wanders by and fails to see me. I’ll emulate Hestia and Artemis for fun And Artemis’s hunt stays protective from the the trees. The love of friends is enough for me. An empty quiver will set me free.
For the Ragtag Daily Prompt: quiver. The statue is Galatea, in Port Townsend.
With all the fuss over the Barbie Movie, I am thinking about Barbie. This takes place in the 1990s. I wrote it in 2018.
When my extroverted feeler son is four, he announces that he wants a Barbie for Christmas. Hmmm, I think.
I tell my mother. She sends him a Barbie. Blonde hair to her ankles and in an itsy bitsy blue glitter bikini. My son names her Pocahontas.
Back to work in January. On the first day back to daycare, my son is searching for something. “Mom?”
I am rushing around getting ready for work.
“Where is my backpack?” He has a small pink backpack with shiny gems pasted on it. We moved from Portland, Oregon to Alamosa, Colorado. All the kids in the Portland parent run daycare insisted on pink jelly sandals, both girls and boys. My son has stopped wearing pink immediately when he goes to the Colorado daycare.
I find the backpack. He stuffs the Barbie in headfirst, satisfied. Hmmm, I think. Taking Barbie to daycare. I take him to daycare and then stand and watch. He is working the room. He goes to a girl, says “Look!” and holds the backpack so she can see inside.
That evening I ask him. “Who did you show the Barbie to?”
“I showed it to Anna and Marni and Becka and Marie,” he says.
“Did you show the Barbie to any boys?”
“Mom!” he says with scorn. “You don’t show Barbies to boys!”
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The Barbie ambulance opens out into a clinic. Twin one, on the Get Real Girl’s lap, has bright red cheeks. Probably parvovirus. Twin two in the cradle has no rash. If I had worn heels like this Dr. Barbie while working, I would have never made it through a day!
Discover and re-discover Mexicoβs cuisine, culture and history through the recipes, backyard stories and other interesting findings of an expatriate in Canada
Engaging in some lyrical athletics whilst painting pictures with words and pounding the pavement. I run; blog; write poetry; chase after my kids & drink coffee.
Refugees welcome - FlΓΌchtlinge willkommen I am teaching German to refugees. Ich unterrichte geflΓΌchtete Menschen in der deutschen Sprache. I am writing this blog in English and German because my friends speak English and German. Ich schreibe auf Deutsch und Englisch, weil meine Freunde Deutsch und Englisch sprechen.
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