This is my weekly (biweekly, snarls my devil) blog about the arguments between the devil on one shoulder and the angel on the other.
Do I really see an angel and a devil? Well, no. But we all use archetypes and we all have all of the archetypes within us. So when I have a dilemma or something comes up, I call the angel and the devil to the internal conference table of my mind and ask for their advice. They are going to give it to me whether I ask or not, so it’s more effective to be polite!
Ok, sometimes it isn’t a conference table. Sometimes it’s a hell scenario with bubbling lava or the fire forest from A Princess Bride… or it could be a field with daisies and a blue sky….
Today I am thinking about what we are supposed to do: Love everyone.
How good are we at that? Not very! Or are we?
My angel: You can love everyone. (The angel is kind and completely confident.)
My devil: Yeah, til they knife you in the back. Right. Go ahead, love them and they’ll treat you like dirt!
My angel: You can love them anyway.
My devil: Paula Pell said, “Be nice to all assholes because it disables them!”
My angel: Yes. You should be nice to those people too. (She doesn’t approve of swearing.)
In my job, I get to love everyone. That is, as a doctor I want to be able to treat everyone and anyone who walks in my office. They can be talking about aliens or refuse to do what I suggest or they can say, “I hate doctors especially YOU.” and I am still supposed and do try to help them. Sometimes it doesn’t work very well. Sometimes we don’t connect or they are going to do the opposite of whatever I say or they return to using heroin. But I still get to try.
In my personal life, I would like to be the same. I am not there yet.
Devil: yeah, and don’t want to be….
Angel: keep trying….
But I can bring something from my job to my personal life. I don’t have to love what people DO and they can be MEAN and I don’t have to LIKE IT. But that is separate from the person themselves: I can still love the person even if they seem to be acting like an idiot and my devil wants to strangle them…..
Devil: oooo, strangle, I like it
Angel: separate the person from the action. Love them anyway.
Keep on trying…..