We go to our first parent teacher conference for our daughter. Kindergarten.
“Your daughter is unusual.” says the teacher.
“Mmmm.” I say.
“She is unusual on the playground. At recess. She will play with the other girls. But not if they are mean to someone. Not if they start ganging up. And it doesn’t matter who it is. She will walk away and play by herself.”
“Good.” I say.
“The other kids are realizing that she won’t tolerate any mean talk or ganging up.”
We make appropriate appreciative parental noises.
“She is influencing them. She doesn’t argue, she doesn’t say anything, she just walks away.”